Everyone puts on a show to impress someone at the beginning of a relationship. Statistics say men lie five times more often than women. (Now ask yourself, is that true, or did I just make it up?) Despite human progress and enlightened times, we're still slaves to our genes. Males are hardwired to impress women.
Watch the elaborate dances some birds go through to win over a female---puffing up their chests and using their feathers to exaggerate how big they are. Human males are no different. They're going to tell you they're richer, stronger, taller and more important than the next guy to win your affections. The balance of power in the world of dating belongs to women. We women hold the power of veto. Well..most of the time, we are always the one who can say, "Thanks, but no thanks." Thank goodness for that.
To those of you who stick in long lasting relationships..how are you doing it? Yeah yeah, communication is key but seriously, what IS the answer? How do you keep each other's interests high? Because it's looking like guys just can't seem to keep up.
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Hi Brenda!, this is an amazing post. Here are my thoughts. Sorry if its wayy too long to read! But I enjoy speaking out to such a deep topic.
I believe that the foundation of a successful long term relationship is trust and love.
Trust is natural and should not be tempered with, every issue and misleading events among a couple should be spoken about, without indulgence in remorse nor arguement. The couples should be able to trust each other enough to exchange descriptions of each others flaws and mistakes. With this said, Trust is a heavy essence to this thing called "Long-term relations ships" you speak about.
Love is a temporary madness. It erupts like an earthquake and then subsides. And when it subsides you have to make a decision. You have to work out whether your roots have become so entwined together that it is inconceivable that you should ever part. Because this is what love is. Love is not breathlessness, it is not excitement, it is not the promulgation of promises of eternal passion. That is just being "in love" which any of us can convince ourselves we are.
Love itself is what is left over when being in love has burned away, and this is both an art and a fortunate accident. Our parents, had roots that grew towards each other underground, and when all the pretty blossom had fallen from our branches they found that they were one tree and not two!
And for those unfortunate ones, who can't keep up, there is always room for Maturity, Experience, Patience, and Improvement.
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-Teo
"To those of you who stick in long lasting relationships..how are you doing it? Yeah yeah, communication is key but seriously, what IS the answer? How do you keep each other's interests high? Because it's looking like guys just can't seem to keep up."
Ohhhhhhh, i dont know... hehehehe :)
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